You can be a good listener only if you want to be . Don't get distracted at any cost .Concentrate and stick to the speaker. Keep good eye contact and follow the speaker's body language.Make a mind that you have to summarize it after the event ends.
Listening means you should try your best to listen your friend or colleague such that it motivates them by looking at you as you are paying attention to them. After finishing, give them proper feedback. This also shows that you have listened to everything they had to say. These small things help you improve your abilities as well.
1. Do not interrupt the speaker by asking doubts and questions while he/she is speaking. This breaks the link of the speaker and there are chances that few points may get skipped from the discussion. 2. It is not just enough that you close your mouth but you must also stop your mind from chattering. If your mind is filled with questions to ask, your own points to make,your own arguments to bring against the speaker of criticism of the speakers style appearances, manner etc. your mind is not silent and thus the speakers word cannot enter your mind. 3. You must keep aside all your thoughts and concentrate on the words of the speaker for better understanding of the concept. 4. Show your interest and connection in the conversations through your expressions body language and words. 5. Watch for non verbal communication and the tone of the voice. Learn to read the expressions and body language of the speaker. This will help you to understand what the speaker is saying beyond the words. 6. Don't take your Phone or Tablet in middle of the conversation. Keep your phone on silent mode so that you dont get disturbed.
Becoming a good listener is a practice which one must practice regularly.
To be a good listener,firstly, we should keep our judgemental views aside then try to understand that what speaker is saying. After that we should give our opinion .
You should be stay on specified topic what you are listening. You must follow some rules for listening like concentration, discipline e.t.c. never argue others while you listening